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November 13, 2016 at 4:21 pm #15015
This is the first time I’ve ever posted into any forum! This book has and the activities have been life changing and helped me to reach 16 days sober.
It has made me realise the reasons that I drink and helped me overcome a precious mentally and physically abusive relationship.
I was frustrated with myself today as went for a trip to London and everyone around me in the bars seemed to be drinking and I felt myself being tempted and I thought I had become stronger … anyway I didn’t give in but one thing I can’t stop myself thinking is that I really miss the taste of the wine.
I understand that you have to understand the why and work through it but how do you get past the craving of not the feeling it gives you but the enjoyment of the drink.
Does anyone else ever feel like that? Any advice would be really appreciated. Thank you
November 13, 2016 at 9:34 pm #15022
Hello Afree! Congratulations on your 100% commitment and reaching your 16th day (or maybe it’s your 17th day now)! I think that what jumps out at me most about what you wrote was that you were in a bar around other people who were drinking alcohol. How could you not be thinking about what you miss most about drinking wine? While you’re purging all of your old habits and thoughts and triggers, I think that it’s really important that you put yourself in the best position to succeed at thriving in your sobriety and achieving your goal. Give yourself the time and the space to get used to a sober life by refraining from spending time in bars if you find that this challenges you. I think that the cravings for the drinking life fade as your momentum of sobriety builds each day. Finding new activities and interests that support your fledgling sobriety will help ensure that you preserve what you’ve attained and where you want to be.
November 14, 2016 at 5:49 am #15025
I too had the same feelings around Day 16 as well. (I’m on Day 42 now) I made a list of things I promised myself I would do when the cravings came on and promised myself to do them. Things like, walk somewhere briskly for 20 minutes, grab a book, clean out a closet…silly little things like that and It really worked for me.
This also worked for getting me through times when I was struggling….
Work the program like you would a college course… Spend at least an hour a day with it and do all the exercises.
Review your Vision Statement often and reach out on these boards often!
Keep up the good work and contact me anytime to talk 🙂
November 14, 2016 at 1:28 pm #15029
Thank you both for taking the time to respond and great advice, really appreciated and very helpful and motivating! 🙂
November 15, 2016 at 1:46 am #15040
Hi afree, I am in London myself and on Day 16 today, so just behind you. I’m glad to see there are some people posting currently. Good for you for staying strong in a bar! I agree, this book is life-changing.
July 14, 2018 at 12:21 am #119547
I too love(d) the taste of wine but recently I tasted tested a few and I lost my palate for it believe it or not.
I think what we miss is how we romanticised loving wine. Objectively, it’s not that great until you start to get buzzed & then it tasted wonderful.
What I do know, is drink other things I like. That can even be soup in a mug but more commonly sodas, juices, energy drinks, sparkling water etc.
You’ll feel so much better that you won’t trade it.
July 15, 2018 at 9:44 pm #119563
Good to know that you have lost your taste for wine. I am on day 28 and doing good but my weakness is wine and I am scared I will never lose that. Still hopeful though. Haven’t had a craving I couldn’t beat.
July 16, 2018 at 12:24 am #119565
@pattaya I don’t know about you but I used to have a cookie problem. Like a serious cookie problem, i.e., I was fat and cookies were the culprit. Somehow (probably through OA I got my cookie problem under control). to this day, I rarely have a cookie, in fact, I will only have chocolate cookie once in a blue moon. Why? Because chocolate chip cookies were my downfall. I realized it, changed my mindset about them & now see them as something I do not want in my body.
I see them & know that they taste good. Yes, delicious but the allure is gone.
That is what I am working on with wine – particularly red. Some are great but most require cheese or something to make them palatable.
Every time I see a bottle I think of the teaching that wine is just poison with pretty labels & every time I have drunk some, I feel as if I have been poisoned.
Eventually, you (& I ) will get to the cookie moment, when wine or spirits are accepted as something that can taste decent but we will have 0 desire as it is so horrible for our bodies & psyches. if I could have a glass & stop, that would be OK but I have not done that so far
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