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August 28, 2015 at 11:06 am #1326Keymaster
March 13, 2016 at 12:36 am #8361Participant
I guess I want to know how? How do you start believing in yourself or believing you don’t need a drink? What are some techniques?
Self affirmations? A mantra? Journaling?
How do you start believing? How do you keep believing in yourself?
November 2, 2016 at 7:38 pm #14906Participant
For me I think back to a time when I did believe in my self and I had confidence that I could do anything I set my mind to. Knowing I was there at one time helps me see that I can be there again.
How are you doing today with this?
March 13, 2016 at 10:25 pm #8389Keymaster
This program is designed to help you through this process. First, focus on today’s action steps. When you stop using the word “can’t”, you will begin to use more positive language. As you do so, you are beginning the process of teaching yourself how to believe in yourself.
The program builds on itself. Each day’s solution will help you continue to believe in yourself. Yes, self-affirmations, mantra, and journaling will all help this process, as will the majority of the coming solutions.
If you feel you haven’t believed in yourself in a long time, then this process most likely won’t occur overnight. The idea is that you are learning a new way of thinking that will ultimately help you thrive in sobriety.
Best of luck!
April 2, 2016 at 3:33 am #9137Participant
I’m finding that sobriety is dominating my thinking. When I was drinking, I never thought of drinking all the time. It seems that sobriety is in my thoughts every hour of the day. It’s a good thing don’t get me wrong, especially when I ask myself “How good is this sobriety?” I’m expecting that at some point I will not have to think about it, it will just be.
April 19, 2016 at 6:07 pm #9935
I’m afraid that, at this point at least, if I’m not thinking about it then I will stumble. Luckily I can distract myself from thinking about drinking and/or sobriety by keeping my self busy with work during the day or the kids, dog, or project when I’m home.
April 22, 2016 at 6:21 am #10028Participant
Don’t forget the program Ground066. There is stuff to review like the Vision, New You, Beliefs, Actions, and so on. Stay strong.
April 22, 2016 at 9:15 pm #10059Participant
Friday, day 5 – first post. Having some ups and downs but haven’t drank for 5 days and can’t remember doing that in 2+ decades. The Lord has made some subtle hints that I’m doing the right thing. My son’s 6-8th grade chorus concert was last night…the only thing I ever look forward to that is getting it over so I can drink. Long story short, my mom is in a wheelchair from a fractured femur and we set up by the corner end in the front. After the first song, the teacher came up to me and told us we could sit front and center. We did and what happened was inspiring. The group sang their last song and it appeared to be over when the teacher said they had been singing a new song for the last 2 weeks, didn’t plan on putting it in the show but the students thought it would be a perfect ending. The song was “I lived” by OneRepublic. Not a big fan but when I sat there and listened to the lyrics, I literally began to tear up in a happy way. I looked up to say “Thank You” to God and noticed my son on stage looking at me with the most genuine smile I’ve ever seen. Right then was the best example of positive reinforcement I’ve ever experienced. Had no intention of doing this, knew I had an out of control problem but didn’t care. Came across 30-day solution via an email story (not promoting or an ad), looked it up and ordered the book. Something struck a nerve and I’m glad it did. Again, only 5 days in but reading the book/website, getting the daily emails and doing the action steps and it seems to really be making a dent in this super strong armor I have named bourbon. Jack and Dave, this program is incredible…thank you.
April 22, 2016 at 11:54 pm #10067
@irinne That’s it! That’s what makes all of this hell worth it. When we come out of this soul wash, we are gonna be so much better and appreciate the hell out of what little time we have left. I know that you had a life shaking moment, but take a second and think about your youngin’ as he drifted off to sleep tonight with the memory of seeing his mother moved by his performance. Congratulations and here is to your continued success (I am toasting you with a glass of water, but it still counts, right?)
April 25, 2016 at 2:56 pm #10200Participant
Thanks ground066 you’re right, and I will continue to move forward with 4 words…keep it simple stupid. One thing, hopefully he drifted off with visions of his father….but his mother will work also…she’s beautiful. Day 8 and doing great. Day 7 was rough but sober.
April 25, 2016 at 7:06 pm #10215
Oops. My bad! No offense intended.
Congratulations on making through 7 and into 8.
June 5, 2016 at 12:30 pm #11818Participant
Thanks for the support!! Today is my Day 5. Last night I drove my 2 teenaged daughters to opposite sides of the city. At midnight, I fetched one of them and the other one early this morning after a sleepover. I felt wonderful that I could do these things for them. In the past, I would have gotten them to call their dad. And today, I am clear headed and feeling strong! Sending hugs to you all. Happy to have you along with me on this new journey.
June 5, 2016 at 4:21 pm #11824Participant
Waking up without a hangover is such a great feeling. I actually look forward to reading and then getting on line to do the steps. While riding around in my car today, I noticed so many people sitting on patios drinking wine and beer and I thought how nice that would be but I didn’t – I had ice cream. I do find that I’m craving sweets now. Ready for day 6!
June 22, 2016 at 9:59 am #12216Participant
I feel privileged to be on this journey with each of you. Yesterday’s Stages of Total Truth Process writing activity triggered a huge emotional response. It was a cleansing process. And as a result, I feel so much more positive today. I look forward to completing this program with all of you!!
June 22, 2016 at 5:14 pm #12226Participant
bblaney . . . happy for your “huge emotional response” — many of us feel the same way. I’m still working my way through the program and am sort of taking it slow and steady. Kind of like the turtle & hare deal. It took me many a long, lonely year to dig the big drinking cesspool hole I put myself in and, so, I am trying to earnestly follow the path laid out.
This forum does help a great deal with feedback and honest feelings. But maybe you already know that.
July 1, 2016 at 8:26 am #12368Participant
I am very close to drinking that wine sitting on top of the fridg, but it is not mine. If it is not that, than it will be something else. I find myself “wishing and kind of craving” on this day, so it must be the turning point. I am following all the rules so am a little bewildered as to why I would even crave at this point. I know that if I drink the wine, I’ll go out and buy 2-3 more bottles and drink them as well. I will then sleep until noon the next day (destroying the day) and also not do any of the things I planned on doing. My liver will be that much worse as well as my heart. The shame will lead me to drink again tomorrow and the spiral downfall will begin again. I hate Fridays and I hate them even more when I can’t drink (ok, turn it) I love Fridays and I love Fridays even more when I do not drink. Hey! we might have something here.
July 25, 2016 at 6:27 pm #12776Participant
I’m feeling super positive today. That’s something unique to this program, in the past I’ve felt the first 5 days are the worst. Now here I am, day 5, looking at new hobbies to take up, getting up early to get more done in the day, and basically living like a functional human 🙂
One thing I have done that I’m not sure about: I’ve been unhappy in the sport I play for a while and I made the decision to quit. My partner thinks that’s a bad decision, he’s worried I’m isolating myself which is usually a bad sign mental health wise. But I’ve given it a fair bit of thought, now I just have to see how I feel in the long run.
August 15, 2016 at 7:36 pm #13115Participant
Well I really liked day 5 in the book. Let someone tell me I can’t do something and see what happens lol. After the 30 days I will love my new live. I am going to be better sober than I ever was when I was drinking. I remember years ago I got sick and was bedridden for a year. When I finally started to walk I told my husband that I am going to run the NYC marathon and he said are you crazy you can’t do that! Well it took me 3 years of training and in 2006 I did it and went over the finish line. Maybe I will do another one but 1/2 marathon and this time completely 100% sober. A goal for 2018! I thank God that I found this book I have been looking for years for a program like this, then it came up in a search on kindle and I downloaded it and started the next day! Great job guys!
August 17, 2017 at 6:13 am #18800Participant
I’ve done it, exercise and stay active just to keep those triglycerides down. Couldn’t hide the bad liver readingS towards the end here. Looks like ive made it thru day five and ready to tackle day six. Good luck and be strong everyone! KEEP TAPPING!!!!
November 17, 2017 at 8:55 pm #19535
June 16, 2018 at 11:33 am #119056Participant
It’s been a while since anyone posted in here, but for the wino who comes along behind me…. hi! I’m on Day 5 and it’s pretty cool. That confirmation bias is the real deal – I was totally doing that. But as the saying goes, if you lay down with dogs, you’re gonna get fleas. I was comparing my drinking to some of the people around me – either teetotalers by nature, people in recovery, or the fifth-a-day folks, and I was right in the middle, so of course I was okay. And triglycerides are high from heredity, sugar and red meat, right? yeah. right. 5 days down, 25 to go – and then it’s on for life!
July 20, 2018 at 3:45 pm #119714Participant
Hey there Mollygirl, looks like I’m the wino coming in behind you!
Like you, my social circle has a lot of heavy drinkers, so my binge drinking looked normal. It’s not as though I was so drunk at a party that I passed out, woke up, and then peed on someone’s laptop. Now, THAT guy has a problem. My drinking seemed modest in comparison… even though it meant that sometimes I didn’t go to work because I had drunk so much that it interfered with my sleeping and I was too tired to go to work…yeah, that’s it. Too Tired.
August 26, 2018 at 9:53 pm #120683Participant
Hi everyone, I am the wino or vodka-soda drinker right beind ya!
I would mix it up and appear like I was choosing the healthy drinks. Yeah, right!! I actually am a Moderation Management believer. It is true and the guidelines seem right on, but I just never followed. I told myself since I can go a day without, that I am a moderate drinker.
It wasnt until I saw a pattern of being able to handle twice what I used to and not having one abstinence day that i realized I needed something more. Plus lying to my husband and the disappointment in myself was growing.
I already feel so much better and I believe I can do it with this program’s help!!
August 27, 2018 at 6:49 am #120684Participant
It really can be a slippery slope, right? Dangerous stuff. I don’t like thinking about it so much, but I guess I have to right now so that I don’t get pulled into the trap again.
I sleep so soundly without alc. I love that. My stomach feels so healthy in the morning that I enjoy my coffee so very much. I love that, too. Deep down I know I’m doing the right thing by abstaining, and that feels good psychologically. During the day when I feel the desire or see others at the restaurants enjoying their drinks, I try to redirect my focus away from the desire. It’s been a new practice, and just like learning to play the violin or something else, it will take time to strengthen the ability, but definitely worth the effort. Enjoy your day!
August 1, 2019 at 11:03 am #122376Participant
Captains log, day 5 – So I see everyday has different categories of forums so I’m going to stay consistent and put my posts in the FAQ one except for day 1 if anyone is following, which technically isn’t correct but deal with it. So yes of course I’ve had confirmation bias, who hasn’t read those articles that say a glass or 2 of wine, beer, whiskey or whatever a day is good for you and then conveniently forget the quantity. That link to the list of teetotalers doesn’t work but it’s pretty easy to just google one if you want to see. Can’t say I’m without temptation today but still feeling pretty good about living a life of sobriety, however as I’ve seen elsewhere I’ve been craving sugar today which isn’t the end of the world yet. I believe it does and will get easier for all of us who commit.
August 1, 2019 at 11:52 am #122377Participant
Welcome aboard the Sober Coaster ChillyByte! I find your posts bc I check “Site Wide Activity “. If you are able to do that, and it differs depending on what device you are using, you will see every current post on the Companion Website as they appear.
From the Site Wide, you can also tap on a person’s name and you’ll be on their profile page. You can private message them if you wish, or friend them.
Another option, if you can figure it out, is to start your own Topic on each day. Then responses will follow, and you won’t have a long thread to scroll through to see and respond to.
The Companion Website is not working as it once did. If you have any questions, just ask and I’ll try to help!
I love your ” Captain’s Log”!!!!
August 2, 2019 at 12:15 pm #122380Participant
Hi Sina, Don’t get me wrong but I do know that I can do all the things you mentioned, I however am not into creating chats and generally won’t be responding much. The reason for my logs is to keep me true to myself to at least get past these 30 days and while doing it acknowledge that a lot of it is relevant to me and perhaps others might relate and get their own inspiration. I’m just not the social media kind of guy in all it’s forms.
Take care and thanks for caring!
August 3, 2019 at 9:32 am #122385Participant
No problem Chillybyte!
I’ll enjoy reading your posts.
August 2, 2019 at 6:41 am #122379Participant
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August 6, 2019 at 1:54 pm #122404Participant
Sina thank you for your reply to my Day 3 Pink Cloud post. So today I am on Day 5 and have been presented with a very challenging weekend. My iPhone isn’t working at all, thanks to the recent update 12.4. So it was a very lonely and isolating few days. Very limited communication with family & friends. It was frustrating and loneliness & boredom has been a big problem for me as a trigger. Also, I was presented with a couple of opportunities to select wine as a beverage this weekend. I did not. Of course not because I am sober.
I found a much more interesting list of Famous people who don’t drink. It’s the Harper’s Bizarre “60 Celebrities who do not drink Alcohol”, and you can click on a link beside their photos to get their more in-depth story. I am not particularly a fan of what celebrities do or do not do, but Ive been a life-long student of personal transformation.
This is an interesting ride. I don’t know if I am totally ready for where it is going to take me, but I know I am on it regardless of the destination. I’m in!
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