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    Hi all…I hope you all are thriving-in-sobriety! My question is how to change two specific traps.
    1. “Should Statements“: I understand the saying “want” instead of “should”, but how would you frame it for a situation that has passed, like when you tell yourself “I should have?” I was thinking of, “next time I will…”
    2. Mind reading: How would you counteract mind reading when you don’t want to ask the person to get clarification?

    Any help would be appreciated! Thank You!

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    Wow … An interesting question, I really don’t the answer, but you can try to write about it, like at a university or school. Write an essay, and when you begin, you will begin to understand something. If it is tight, you can ask for help at bestessaywriter

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    “I could” is also a great alternative. Works nicely for past tense situations too. “I could have said no, but i didn’t.” Takes some of the blame and shame off. “I could have a drink…. or not.” Gives permission and space.

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