July 3, 2018 at 6:06 pm #119374
I plan on starting Sunday or Monday at the latest (I’d prefer Sunday)
Anyone else new here? Maybe we can make a go of it together and help each other with navigating in the community and site?
July 3, 2018 at 9:03 pm #119376
There are several people starting right now. Me, Molly & a couple others. Sinaqueena also weighs in regularly.
I’m on Night 8. Starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Depending on how much you were drinking, the 1st week will be exhausting. I recommend that you get all your supplements ready for Sunday. Try to get GABA, L-Glutamine, L-Tyrosine, D3 drops, B1 pills, GLA & DHA plus a multivitamin. Magnesium drinks help with anxiety too, as do Epsom salt baths. If you are concerned about your liver, drink San Pellegrino as it has a high Sulphur content & add bee pollen to your yogurt. Both aid the liver in repairing itself. Take it easy the first week. You probably need naps but after the 1st week, your energy starts to improve.
July 19, 2018 at 6:05 am #119703
I am Sober 18 days but I am on Day 12 of the exercises. I work on them every day but I want to be Thorough and may spend a couple of days working on the exercises for the day. I go to AA and have been for a year and a half 3 to 4 days a week non stop since then. This program is so much more comprehensible then following the steps and the big book of AA. I am so motivated and am learning so much about myself and how to deal with my constant anxiety that caused me to drink in the first place. I am so excited to find this CD then I bought the book and have the web site. This is exactly what I needed. Structure, taking action every day in self improvement and Sobriety. I thank God for finding this program and will work on it every day even after the 30 days. This is a lifetime commitment for me because I am an alcoholic. I tried controlled drinking but it causes cravings that make me drink again. I am Sober again and will thrive in sobriety.
July 4, 2018 at 4:27 pm #119390
I just got the book yesterday and plan to do the first chapter later this evening. Won’t lie, I’m very very nervous about looking ahead at a life without alcohol 😯
July 4, 2018 at 4:29 pm #119391
Just tagging this newbie thread
July 4, 2018 at 6:31 pm #119392
I’ve been putting L-glutamine into my morning smoothie for several months now. J. J. Virgin, a great nutritionist I caught on PBS several years ago, mentioned in one of her videos that this supplement helps reduce cravings. I’ll definitely put San Pellegrino on my grocery list, too. That’s interesting about the sulphur, karakucha. I haven’t heard of that yet. I’ll keep a couple bottles in the fridge so it’s nice and cold!
July 5, 2018 at 12:38 am #119394
July 5, 2018 at 10:42 pm #119414
Hi New Folks. Day 21 but no supplements and tons of support. Take that 100% stuff seriously. Be 100% committed to just Not Drinking. Then start the program.
July 10, 2018 at 9:40 am #119492
I’m picking a day to start this week. I’m heading out today to get some supplements. I’d love to know if anyone else is starting and maybe we can begin same day?
July 10, 2018 at 10:23 am #119494
Welcome @lanie79 . I am eight days sober now, and feeling much stronger since past day 6 or so. I’m a busy mom of five kids and its school holidays for us, so i haven’t worked through the solutions as quickly as i hoped. I am doing the activity part for day three right now. I’m OK with that tho, as i know typically when i rush through stuff it doesn’t stick with me like it should. Weekends are definitely hard for me so i want to make sure I get through at least a couple more chapters before this coming weekend. Hope you are feeling strong with your start – let us know when you do. All the best.
July 11, 2018 at 1:22 am #119501
Okay! Finally did the time travel technique (yikes), I think I’m off to a good start!
Let’s keep in touch!
July 11, 2018 at 8:23 am #119504
Doesn’t the Time Travel Technique really hit home?! I’m 63 years old, so it created a very clear picture in my mind of the near future for me. Two very different destinies! Have a Healthy & Happy day today. You’re doing great!
July 12, 2018 at 4:46 am #119519
I’m soon going to be 60 and drinking is unhealthy for me, trying to stop is very difficult. I’m trying again starting today.
July 12, 2018 at 8:36 am #119520
Hi cruisinthrulife58 … You’re already doing well by becoming aware that you need to grab this bull by the horns. Stay very hydrated! Eat regularly to keep blood sugar stable. Pray for strength. Do the Solutions. You’ll be amazed at how well they work. You’ll get there! My best, -K
July 12, 2018 at 11:46 am #119521
Ya! Hang in there. Personally I would find that in the earlier part of the day I’d be like “no way am I drinking tonight” Then…evening rolls around and I find myself purchasing alcohol to drink :(. Stay strong and determined, do the time travellers technique, re-read what you wrote, write your reasons to quit and abstain. There’s sleepy time teas and things like that out there too if that helps…We’re all in this together 😉
July 12, 2018 at 10:11 pm #119529
Hi everybody – sorry I haven’t posted in a few days. Been sick with a fever & migraine.
So glad to see a thread that isn’t actually spam. They really need a spam filter plugin… Just sayin’
Happy that you are staying strong Mishelle & welcome other new people 🙂
July 13, 2018 at 11:00 am #119539
Hey everyone! I’m going to wish you a great week abstaining 🙂 staying strong
I’m out of town and away from all tech for a week or so, I’ll be sure to check in when I get back.
I hope everyone keeps posting and sharing, if you’re new don’t be shy to hop in 🙂
“The strongest force in the universe is a human being living consistently with his identity.”
July 13, 2018 at 12:02 pm #119544
Enjoy your week away @mishelle. I have been doing ok this week. got friends coming on saturday so i will need all my strength to resist the old habit, but i feel confident. Struggling to find time to do the solutions in the holiday – but I’m thinking through stuff even if its not getting written down at this point. I’m day 12 since I had a drink. So grateful. All the best to you all.
July 14, 2018 at 12:05 am #119545
@narunner – I say from experience that before such an event be on guard. Don’t go in there thinking “you got this” – read the social solutions & your before you & after you. If not, you may forget and say yes to someone offering you a drink and then we all know, one drinks leads to another, another, another & six months go by before you pick this book up again…
July 14, 2018 at 6:30 am #119548
I agree with karakucha! Stay on guard. Remember your commitment. You’ll be so glad you stuck with your commitment, once you do. And you will have strengthened your self-control. I have a social event coming next month, and I’m already getting ready in my mind. I don’t want to sit there and drink more than I should, so I may bring my own little cooler to have at my fingertips with a few non-alc drinks for myself.
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July 16, 2018 at 12:11 am #119564
Funny you should mention your little cooler. A while back, perhaps when I did this the 1st time, I went to a going away party of one of the most out of control persons I “knew” here in LA. My contribution was a case of diet Red Bull, as I was attending sober, despite a few boozy nights with this person. When I showed up to her apartment (I hadn’t see her in a while as I considered her a bad influence) she thanked me profusely for the Red Bull. Turns out, she was clean & sober and everyone else brought wine & other liquors and I was the only one who brought non-alcoholic (but fun) beverages. So @narunner – prep something like Red Bull or something fun but non-alcoholic for your peeps. They may be thankful. If not, you will.
July 18, 2018 at 12:38 pm #119688
I’m new and on day 2 of book but I’m actually on day 10 of no alcohol. (I’ve been to day 9 three times in the past month or so) I’ve been a drinker since my teens but it’s just been the last 3 Year’s that I started drinking a lot more. I second @mishelle with waking up and thinking “not drinking anymore” and by 5:00 saying “don’t mind if I do!” and a fix a drink. I’m a wife, mother of 4 and dog owner of 2 GSP’s.
Right now, I tell myself i’m Taking a break cuz forever depresses the shit out of me. I’ve been reading memoirs from other heavy drinkers that quit. I drink loads of water and eat licorice to keep my hands busy at the “drinking hour”. I’ve tried a few brands of sparkling water for non-alcoholic drink which I don’t really like but i’d Love to hear other suggestions of drinks people enjoy. I don’t take any supplements or medications. I’m following steps and really pray I find my purpose because I feel like i’ve Been floating thru life doing what needs done while wondering “what’s really the point in being here?”
July 16, 2018 at 7:52 am #119625
Exactly, karakucha! Today is day 23 for me, and I attribute a lot of my success to having non-alc drinks on hand which do the trick for me. I really like Bai Bubbles Sparkling drinks and lightly flavored seltzers. I think a lot of our desire to drink stems from simply being thirsty! Once hydrated, everything changes chemically within us. That’s a great thing to learn and keep in mind for all of us trying to cut back or abstain from alc. The new habits might be easier to ingrain in us than we think! I believe every day we honor our commitment to this, our self-control strengthens. Keep going, everyone. You’re doing great!!
July 18, 2018 at 12:16 am #119647
Hi everyone, Since I do not know who or if anyone will read this, I want you to understand I have never done this program before. I am on day one. I have 2 days of sobriety starting into this program. I am happy to be here just writing anything that comes to mind. I feel fortunate that I still have a mind. I could have easily died or incapacitated myself a few times over the past 50+ years of near daily drinking. I am fortunate in that I do not have withdrawal symptoms beyond mild stomach cramps as I detox. I have detoxed a handful of times and I am 100 percent committed to making this be my last time. My last detox was in late April 2018 (this year) and I stayed sober for 29 days and said “what the heck – I’ll just have a bourbon and coke and reward myself.” That kind of reward is potentially lethal. Even though I have been a functionally drinker, I know something will eventually collapse and the cards will come falling down. I realize now that I cannot keep playing with fire. If I keep drinking, I will be like the crazy guy who thought he was invincible and that he could survive jumping off the Empire State Building. He went to the top and jumped. He waved and shouted to the people peering out of the windows as he descended floor by floor, “so far – so good”. How do you think that ended? Better question is “how do I think I will end”?
This is my beginning. It doesn’t have to have a tragic end or a devastating middle. I will journal everyday as instructed. I will return here to dash off more if anyone wishes so.
July 18, 2018 at 6:42 am #119683
@david welcome to the website, and you’re right – a drink is no way to reward yourself! Some on here talk of putting your money that you save into a jar for a treat after a set time period, so maybe take yourself to a movie, or buy something you’ve been longing for. @karakucha and @katballou thanks for your support and input. I survived the weekend just fine, we were hosting, so keeping busy was a good thing. I have NO DESIRE to return to my old wrecked self and I often visualise the time travel images that I experienced, I know my inner being is determined, its the superficial habits and situations that feel like they’ll catch me out – so being on guard is key. I am day 16 now, and truly grateful. Can anyone help with boredom tho. I am feeling bored myself and worry that I appear boring to others, because I am not my old noisy self. Also, being a stay at home mom in the school holiday I feel like I am buried under housework and kids and no ray of sunshine to boost my energy. Last night I very nearly asked hubby to get me a drink just because I wanted a chance to relax and disconnect from the day … I didnt, and he is so supportive he helped me to resist, but I really felt like I needed to take a happy trip for half an hour, just to unwind. Any tips would be appreciated. @mishelle also thinking of you and hope you’re doing good with this program – send us an update! Thx. All.
July 19, 2018 at 12:43 am #119700
@narunner & @katballou – Back when I did the 30 day program the 1st 2 times it was the dread of boredom that plagued me the most. This time around, as I am a veteran of quitting, I go this through that boredom panic less often. The 1st week, of course, I am always so exhausted that I have no time to get bored. Once the withdrawals subside I find I am up easily passed 11 pm & somehow filled all the hours I dreaded to live because of loneliness and then it seems wonderful that I now have 1/3 extra of a precious day that I had been wasting passing out. You’ll soon rediscover things to do – we were just suffering from booze amnesia – life in the modern world offers many boredom cures and it doesn’t have to be exercise (even if exercising is what I should be doing)…
July 18, 2018 at 8:04 am #119685
Hi david and narunner … Wow, once again I see myself in your posts. Amazing. I would say to david, welcome, and feel confident that this program works. I started last 12/31/17 and am on my 3rd 30-day commitment. Tried the moderation thing and saw clearly that it doesn’t take long for me to start falling down the rabbit hole once again. So, today is day 25 and I probably look 5 years younger. My self-control is strengthening, etc.
And to narunner … I can understand the “boredom” thing. I’m sure most of us can! Stress and boredom … things of which to be on guard. They both seem to pass if you/we can wait them out. Haven’t seen @sinaqueena post for a while, but if you could read her posts, she posted an interesting video a couple of months ago equating these feelings with riding a wave. I’ll try to look for it later, and if I find it I’ll let you know where it is. Have a great day! -K
July 18, 2018 at 12:25 pm #119687
Hello! I am brand new here. I have tried for a week to get registered & get on here. I just started ready the book and am on the first Phase/(Chapter). I’m not really sure what I’m supposed to be doing yet, but know that I need to make a change & hope that this is what I need to make it stick. I’d love to hear some tips/tricks/advice for this newbie if anyone has time. Hope everyone has a great day! Thanks!
July 18, 2018 at 12:50 pm #119690
@csunshine Great idea to post and ask for help – i really hope this thread can keep us all afloat aboard the sober boat!!!! I’m inspired to read posts from other people struggling with the same demon cos in real life its something i hardly dare to mention!! My advice is to read the book methodically and do the action items in each chapter – really do them with pen and paper, don;t kid yourself that just reading will be enough. The time travel technique is worth a listen – its the action step 5 in Day one Solution. It will help you find your vision and give you a goal to focus on. All the best on your beginning and post often to stay inspired.
July 18, 2018 at 1:11 pm #119691
@narunner Thank you! I hope so too! This is Day 2 for me of not drinking. (I last drank late Sunday, into the wee hours of Monday, so I counted Monday as Day 0). I haven’t made it past 6 days probably since I quit for my last pregnancy (he’s 5 now). I also like to read others posts. I feel I can mention more online with people that “get it” & that I resonate with. I started the book last week, but need to re-read & figure out the Action Items. All the best to you as well! I look forward to communicating with everyone.
July 18, 2018 at 12:47 pm #119689
Hi guys. Day 1 today..enjoyed time travel exercise or should ii say found it very enlightening ! Not great with techy things so struggling a bit finding my way round the site/forums etc…apologies if i pop up somewhere else…this is where i need to be..SO looking forward to this journey with you..30 year history of recurring relapses…awful !! Needs to stop.
July 18, 2018 at 3:43 pm #119692
Greetings all, I am new too. Had to smile when I read that csunshine took a week to get registered… took me some time too! Ended up having to create a brand-new email address.
I hadn’t even thought about getting vitamins and supplements on hand… totally makes sense. What great advice.
I ordered the book online, and it took a few days to reach me, so I’m not very far along (day 2). But I have been 8 days without alcohol. It’s hard. I’ve increased exercise but I really miss having a drink to take the edge off. One thing that I’ve been doing is making drinks with lots of ice, club soda, a splash of fruit juice… the ritual of making a drink seems to help. I’m trying to take it one day at a time. I am going to get some San Pellegrino. Had no idea that sulphur can help the liver.
Be kind to yourself… that’s what I’m trying to do.
July 18, 2018 at 9:53 pm #119696
Lots of good posts. I doesn’t matter what day anyone is on. We are all at different stages of the program but all going through the same feelings and challenges. I made it through day 31 alcohol free today (and day 16 of the program) which is big for me. I have done 30 days on my own before but never with a serious thought that I could take it further. This program is working. I am 100% committed to following this through and being successful. Just keep doing the steps every single day. Take supplements. Bee pollen was also suggested and I started taking that again today. I used to take it as a cure for hay fever and it worked for that as well.
July 19, 2018 at 6:19 pm #119705
Congratulations, pattaya! Job well done! Good self-control! I’m on day 25-ish. I’m sure I’ve made some positive changes in my habits. Just treated myself to a warm shower, and now I look forward to spending a couple hours with my favorite books. Then a blissful night’s sleep (pretty much), then waking up fresh and enjoying my coffee as I begin a new day. Sounds right to me! We’re doing great!
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July 19, 2018 at 9:02 pm #119707
Since we are talking about supplements – two weeks on Artichoke pills, then two weeks on Dandelion followed by two weeks of Black Radish (each twice a day – which reminds me, I have to go take a Dandelion pill) – also cleanse the liver & help with bile production (which is necessary for the pancreas & digestion and when you drink the liver has trouble creating enough bile).
Anyhoo – still on the bandwagon – yay for us.
I’ll close with a quote I read just now:
“The is no chance, no destiny, no fate that can circumvent or hinder or control the firm resolve of a determined soul.”
Ella Wheeler Wilcox whoever that was.
July 20, 2018 at 8:03 am #119711
Doing great, karakucha! “A determined soul”. I like that! Have a beautiful, healthy day today! -k
July 20, 2018 at 9:31 am #119712
I am starting today, I read and did the first 2 days back in May but I did not commit 100%. I let that stupid voice that rationalizes alcohol back in take over. I am 100% ready now. I am so unhappy with who and how I have become. I am hoping to connect with people on here as well to have some added wisdom and support. People who understand the struggle and want to change as well. Thank you in advance for being here.
July 20, 2018 at 9:25 pm #119717
I hear you, jasstar77. Yes, making that 100% commitment seems to do the trick. On one of my reboots I said to myself that I was on an “extended time of abstinence” and only made it to two weeks. (which is not too, too bad since I was drinking most days before this program.) This time I made the commitment to 30 days, and it has made the difference.
July 21, 2018 at 6:56 am #119727
Just checking in everyone!! hope you’re feeling strong with summer on us and the usual bbq’s and so on. Its not easy. We have a BIG family bbq this afternoon and I have to be honest I’m dreading it. I talked it over with my husband last night and my message is this…. I will be happy to shoulder the regret of turning down an alcoholic drink in return for passing on the usual regret which is to wake up sunday morning feeling rotten and full of remorse about what I did and said the night before. I am such an idiot when drunk. The flashbacks are shameful and I dread to think of the stuff i don’t even remember!!!! So!!!!….. Pushing forward with the plan. One of my strategies is to spend an hour on a FRIdAY NIGHT reading the book, as this refreshes and strengthens me for the weekend. Typically Friday night would be the time I’d be taking my first drink as we used to stay off it for the working week…..I’m feeling stronger today and going to look forward to sunday morning waking up SOBER, and calm and not regretting all the dumb stuff I would have said in front of my mother in law, had I had a drink on Saturday night!! I have 19 days of sobriety today and it is beginning to feel like a gift. thank you all so much for taking time to stop by this thread and encourage us all. You are worth the effort and I am certain that the short term pain of resisting is going to propel us all into happier orbit long term. The pendulum thing on day 4 is becoming more true for me – i have so many regrets and bad feelings of pain associated with drinking and each day and each drink i resist i am building a treasury of pleasurable feelings. Thx xx
July 21, 2018 at 7:41 am #119728
Your post is amazing narunner. I could have written it about me. You’re doing so well! -k
July 21, 2018 at 9:10 am #119729
Hi folks. New here too. Been trying to quit the booze for over a year. Just bought the 30-Day book and registered here. I will be starting on Monday and hoping this time it is going to work for me. This looks like a wonderful forum full of great support. I am glad to be here 🙂
July 21, 2018 at 9:54 am #119730
Good morning everyone! Made it through Day 1 and suprisingly with no cravings just feeling grateful for making the decision to commit. It really does make a difference to make that choice first katballou. Narunner, your post is totally me! I am a completely different person when I drink and have done and said so many stupid things. I have a ton of guilt and shame about this right now I am trying to work through. I hope as I move forward I will be able to let it go and feel good about myself. I have started meditating in the mornings when I wake up to help with the anxiety I have had all day everyday most of my life. That is always a trigger for me, it feels pretty good. I really want a different life and to be a different person. I have so many dreams that I have let die because of drinking. Have a wonderful day everybody, and thanks for being here!
July 22, 2018 at 10:40 am #119733
Hi everyone 🙂 I’m back from my week away and am SO happy to see there are more of us on here now supporting each other! As I’ve had no tech I’ve not really been following the book (that’s my excuse lol) but I’ve not been drinking at all either 😉
Though there are days I fantasize about having “just one” drink after my 30 days. I’m thinking if I have something I don’t usually drink ie. an expensive local fruit cider…then I’ll just have one…I think though that part of me knows I’ll be right back at it the next day.
For some reason it takes a lot for me to quit…Once I quit it’s not so bad going without, but once I start again it’s really hard to quit 😛
Anyhow, I’m 1/3 of the way there and now that I’m back in “civilization” I hope to diligantly go through the book and actually do all of the exercises.
I’ve not taken any supplements either, but perhaps I should. Is there anyone that has and has noticed a significant difference? I like what someone said about staying hydrated- I think that makes a difference…I’ve been drinking San Pelligrino- it’s good but somehow isn’t quite cutting it for me…But actually it’s better than nothing. I’m just not a “pop” or “soda” person. I also have been drinking kombucha mixed with bubbly water, I think it’s the fizz, the carbonation that I’m after (craving).
Hope everyone keeps posting! 🙂
Stay strong and sober 🙂
I do wake up thinking of all of the guilt and times that I drank too much- then felt stupid or wondered what I even said. That also helps me not drink 😉
July 22, 2018 at 3:39 pm #119736
Hi, Just starting out, Day 2. I am feeling rather shy, but saying hello and encouraged by each of your journey. I may just hang on the sidelines…but I really appreciate your authenticity.
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