Minimal Support at Home

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    My husband drinks heavily. When he got home from work, I told him I was sober for a whole week. He said, “That’s good” and cracked a beer. So, I guess this is one of the few places I will get real support. Most of my friends don’t even know I’ve stopped. Oh well. I’m proud of myself though! Maybe that’s all that matters.

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    Hang in there. I’ve been in a similar relationship, and it’s as frustrating as it is sad. You are doing the right thing that is made just a little more challenging by the fact that your chosen partner doesn’t share your journey. That’s okay. You might end up being his motivation, his reason to change and for getting sober. It’s a personal choice though. You know that. If you need support, come here. I’ll be happy to support you in any way I can. By the way, my situation ended up in both of us going in different directions. I’m happier, he’s…happier…and still drinking. He didn’t want to quit. He actually got mad at me and made a scene in public when he found out I had be abstinent for a week and planned to stay that way. Not very encouraging. That was years ago. I ended up drinking again shortly after that, unfortunately. It’s a long sad story. I’m in a much better place now and have more respect for myself and self-confidence. I’m here rootin’ for you! 😊

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    I can totally relate. My husband isn’t mad at me. But, he isn’t exactly thrilled either. He says he will do anything he can to help me. Of course, I need to tell him what that is. All I said is just don’t get really drunk in front of me. It’s funny that in this course it always mentions your “loved ones begging you to stop”. It never talks about what if your spouse or partner drinks and really doesn’t want you to quit. My husband knows he can’t do a thing about my decision and that he better not even try to dissuade me. And you’re right. He does tend to mimic what I do, so I may inspire him to stop or at least cut back. Not counting on that though. Not counting on him to be proud of me or even ask me how I’m doing with it. In the end it’s a personal journey. I’m just glad to have a place where I can get a little support, here. We’ve been together 30 years. And he’s a big reason I drink as much as I do. So, maybe it’s fitting that I leave him out of this recovery process. Thanks so much for your kind words and extending your support. I hope your efforts are going well. I’m on day 10 now. Feeling tons better physically and able to think clearly again. Yay, me!!

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