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October 31, 2016 at 7:15 am #14869Participant
Hello all, I have a question for those who have reached Day 23, the Emotional Sobriety Solution. This is my first post, although I have read many posts from the first 22 days, and have been inspired by everyone’s successes.
With my many relapses, I have lost the trust of my wife. She does not trust that I am not, and have not been drinking over the past 23 days, she is not believing me. Also, with today’s reading and journal work, I shared it with her (which I have been doing every day), and she became very upset with me because she felt I wasn’t “digging deep enough.” She believes that there may have been some trauma in my past (which may be true), and that I wasn’t doing enough work to get to this issue. I am also going to counseling to address the root of my drinking, and will be discussing this possible trauma during those sessions.
I am feeling great changes from this book/reading/journaling/exercises/habits, etc., and believe that I am making great progress.
My questions is this: I am wondering if anyone else is getting this type of feedback from their spouses/partners, and wondering if anyone has any advice/suggestions/feedback.
Thank you for any input, and congratulations to everyone for making it to day 23!!!
November 1, 2016 at 5:47 pm #14886Participant
That sounds really tough. I would offer that it is important for you to remember that this is your journey first, and your evaluation of whether it is helping you or not is what matters most. On behalf of your wife, trust is something that once lost is very hard to regain. Please try to be patient with both yourself and her while remembering that you are in the driver’s seat because this is your journey. Best of luck to you.
November 3, 2016 at 7:35 am #14910Participant
Thank you for your response karfe. You’re right, it is my journey, and as long as I keep this focus, I am hoping that my actions can help to rebuild the trust with my life. Thank you!
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